Hello Dan and welcome to the board. It sounds as if you have an interesting life, and are happy with your choice
I respect that. The jw couple that I respect most, told me that "even if it is not "the truth", they have had a happy life themselves in pursuing that course.
I have followed the conversation above with interest. It is true that we dont want to scare you away, saying we are largely considered " apostates" according to the WTBS precepts.
We are in fact normal friendly peolpe, who have our own point of view.
However, I think it is also good and to be up front, and not hide who we are. Jws are not always like that, in my opinion.
Anyway, Dan, most everyone here, I'm sure, wishes you and your wife every happiness in your chosen way.
jlp